LOVEMAKING MISTAKES MEN MAKE

Do you think,you know everything about having sex with women?
That, the erotic ways of having sex, you carry around in your head may contain a lot of basic errors and omissions about women's sexuality -- which can lead to lovemaking mistakes that could be disheartening to both.

That is because  most of us are left to figure out sex for ourselves. Guys tend to take a lot of cues from adult movies, and we all know how true-to-life those are. Experience may help, but many women can be shy when talking about what they like.

Mistake No.1:

Men often make assumptions about what a woman wants based upon what they've done with other women.But women aren't all the same.You should never assume that what worked for the last person,or to another is going to work for this person , though you might have a repertoire of sexual acts and positions. That applies not only to sexual predilections, but also to relationships.There are women who can have no-strings-attached sex, and women who can get attached very easily, and then everyone in between.

Mistake No. 2: 

Some women can't have an orgasm just with human tongue or fingers which can only generate moderate
vibration. But men typically think something is wrong if a woman needs a vibrator.If the only way that a woman can achieve orgasm is with a vibrator, she's is to be provided with one.Think of a vibrator as your assistant, not your substitute. Many couples use vibrators together.
Mistake No. 3: 

There is a "huge difference" between men and women in the ways that sex feels good.When a man has intercourse with a woman, and his penis goes into her body, that sensation is so passionate for most men, they cannot imagine that it isn't feeling the same way for her.It couldn't be further from the truth.The inside of the vagina is probably less sensitive than the outer parts for most women.Also, deep thrusting may not feel so nice on the receiving end. If the penis is too long,it feels like you're getting punched in the stomach.It makes you feel nauseous.

Mistake No. 4:

Most guys know generally what a clitoris is and where to find it.But whether they understand it is the point. The belief that women must be able to orgasm from vaginal penetration stubbornly persists.There are people who say things like, my wife can't climax from intercourse unless she has clitoral stimulation.For the majority of women, it's not going to happen that way.

Men also lack information about how to touch it and how sensitive it is. A touch that's bliss for one woman may feel like nothing special, or may even be painful for someone else. Some prefer indirect stimulation.How can you find out how she likes to be touched? Answer ask her.
Mistake No. 5:

Guys sometimes get disappointed if a woman doesn't get slippery enough for easy penetration. Don't worry about it.Many think that if a women is turned on, she has to be wet, not necessarily.Some women tend to get wetter than others, and how much natural lubrication a woman has can change from day to day. It varies by the phase of her menstrual cycle, and it's subject to influences like stress and medications.

Mistake No. 6:

A lot of guys think they should be silent during sex, but unless you speak up, your partner has to
guess what's doing it for you and what isn't.A woman who wants to please you will probably
appreciate some directions.Please say,this is how I like it, and you do this in a way i most prefer.

Raghu Natrajan

NOICELESS LOVEMAKING

When you and your man/women have the entire house to yourselves, you can get down and dirty and be as loud as you want. But imagine this, you have a houseguest, or live at home with your in-laws.

 What do you do?

We suggest you go for muted action, where you can have the time of your life without hollering in the middle of the night. After all, you wouldn't want anyone else to hear those moans and groans, do you?

Let your bed be sturdy

Get a bed that is sturdy and won't give you away that easily. If your bed is creaky, it will squeak continuously every time you try to move. Your moments of lovemaking will soon become irritating.

Do it on the floor

Chuck the bed, plunge into action on the floor itself! Now we don't want you to sprain your back, while you are turning up the heat with your women/man. So use a mat to provide some relief. It will also muffle any sounds you are likely to make against the floor.We may also stay away from any kind of furniture to avoid getting hurt and making any more noise.
Shower time

This may just be the right time for you to act out that shower fantasy. The sound of the water will drown any love sounds you are making. Avoid pushing and shoving each other too hard in the bathroom. After all, you don't want your man/women to get a bump on his/her head and pass out while you are making love to him/her.

Choose the time when others are busy or asleep.

Get some action while your in-laws, guests are watching TV in the afternoon. So while they are getting their daily dose of soap opera drama, you can get your daily dose oflovemaking.You can even do it when they are asleep. Play some music in the background to drown your screams.

Use gags


 Their real purpose is to muffle any loud sounds you are likely to make while having regular sex too.

Raghu Natrajan

SPOUSE ABUSE- SAY 'NO' AND DONT'T ACCEPT IT

It is amazing to take note that some spouses engage violently with each other. Is the partner a third person and stranger? You have entered into marital relationship very well knowing who your partner is going to be. When the relationship blossoms and grows, where you expose and fully make know to the other about your dreams, ideas, plans, likes and dislikes, where is the necessacity to engage in violance? to put across ypur interests, unless something is wrong deep in your mind. Dominance in marriage does not find a place, since both the partners are equally responsible for their acts and to children they bring up. We are suppose to be 'civilans' and to be 'civil'. When we are civil, violance takes back seat.

Any difference of opinion in any matter, has to be sorted out in a gentle manner and to be made known understandable by the other partner, why you prefer it to be as per your liking. when the pluses and minuses are amicable discussed in an open frame of mind, the arugument with more pluses will be automatically be accepted by both of them. It is necessary that understanding and as well as the ciecumstances that both are in, has to determine the outcome of that arugument. If this is the case both partners are pleased and they come to know that the decision they take is the best for both of them and their family.

Violance occurs when there is mismatch in the spouses, or, when one begins or wants to domonate the other, or sometimes to please their ego, or to terroise the other partner. Broadly abuse in a marital relationship can be of four types. Such as Sexual abuse, Verbal abuse, Physical abuse and emotional abuse.

a) Sexual Abuse: Where one , dominant, partner engages in marital rape, forcing the partner to engage in perverse sexual acts

b)Verbal Abuse: Where the abuser constantly resorts to using foul and vulgar dialects while shouting at the other.

c)Physical Abuse: One pertner slaps, beates, hits or kicks the other.

d)Emotional abuse: One belittles the other by insults, threats and intellectual battering.

the best thing to be to stop this spouse abuse in a marital rlationship, if when counsalling by relatives and by those ebgaged in trating such people does not yeild any psitive result, is to take recourse to the law. Stand up and say NO to this abuse.

Many might be lucky to bring a change in the abuser, when the abuser realises that the abused is up against him like a wall and that he has no other option but to retrack his ways to normalise hie marital relationship and pursue a peaceful life..

Raghu Natrajan