TEENAGE LOVE-GUIDE THEM

Teenage love, nowadays, is not like what it was,as in yesteryear's where teenagers or even adults were more circumspect about their love-lives, and not so common, is noe generally pursued more openly and boldly. In some cases, they pursue it even for peer pressure. At this age they are not even sure of their future carrier option, and this love feelings only complicate their mind-set. this leads to waywardness and away from their carrier options. When a teenager is in love, he/she thinks he/she is very sure about himself/herself to handle the responsibilities of resulting relationship.This is not so in almost majority of cases. The teenage feels that they are adult enough to face the society and share the responsibilities. When the teenager is admonished or ad viced not to, they feel bad and get angry. what is needed here is for someone who can guide and make them understand the reality. It is not wrong to fall in love, but whether they are ready for a good and understanding relationship has to be seen, more so, analysed by the teenager. Certainly their age is not the right time to get commit ed to any serious relationship.

The reaction by parents when they come to know about one's teenager's love, react basically in 3 ways. One way is parents accept the love and try to be supportive. Second is that they do not take the love matter with all its seriousness and just think it to be a age-related adventure. Thirdly the more conservative parents who will blindly oppose the love outright.

To, not to go overboard or react when one comes to know about their teenager's love, one has to understand that falling in love is not something to be ashamed, and that it is an opportunity to make the teenager to understand the true value and the good and bad effects of it at that age.

First of all, this love matter has to be viewed seriously for it involves your child. Falling in love by a teenager or by an adult is very much the same, whether feelings experienced by them, or as well as the chemical changes that results in the brain in both of them.When one falls in love, this feeling of bring in love takes precedence, takes over their lives, and all other pursuits are pushed behind. In a teenager life, this puts his academic pursuits behind, friends are neglected and parents become unwanted.
Parents should accept he fact that teenager are mature enough to fall in love but not mature enough to commit to any serious relationship. Love is a necessity in all relationships, but it does not guarantee one a good and long lasting relationship. There are many other aspects to be taken into account, when one com templates to engage himself into serious relationship. As a teenager most don't have these or understand these aspects.As a result many teenage relationship end sooner than later, except in more matured teenagers, or those which are recognised and supported by the parents. Paents should take he opportunity to fine tune the teenager thinking about relationships, which will be invaluable in conducting their adult relationship.

Parents should also realise that falling in love is a necessary stage in any teenager's life, and that he cannot help out if the teenager does not confide in him. If the relationship between the parents and the teenager is open and good, then parents will surely be consulted by the teenager about their love, expecting some guidance, to which parents should be ready without hesitation putting any condition.

The teenager should be made to realise that falling in love is natural and that the age is not the right one to get into any serious compelled commitment, to his partner and at the same time not allow themselves to be compelled to engage in sexual relationship. In today's university surroundings where there is too much competition,girls are now discussing about the need to sleep with their boyfriend to gain their attention. Teenager should be made to understand not to prioritise first his love feelings, instead his first priority is going to school or college.

Raghu Natrajan