Do you think,you know everything about having sex with women?
That, the erotic ways of having sex, you carry around in your head may contain a lot of basic errors and omissions about women's sexuality -- which can lead to lovemaking mistakes that could be disheartening to both.
That is because most of us are left to figure out sex for ourselves. Guys tend to take a lot of cues from adult movies, and we all know how true-to-life those are. Experience may help, but many women can be shy when talking about what they like.
Mistake No.1:
Men often make assumptions about what a woman wants based upon what they've done with other women.But women aren't all the same.You should never assume that what worked for the last person,or to another is going to work for this person , though you might have a repertoire of sexual acts and positions. That applies not only to sexual predilections, but also to relationships.There are women who can have no-strings-attached sex, and women who can get attached very easily, and then everyone in between.
Mistake No. 2:
Some women can't have an orgasm just with human tongue or fingers which can only generate moderate
vibration. But men typically think something is wrong if a woman needs a vibrator.If the only way that a woman can achieve orgasm is with a vibrator, she's is to be provided with one.Think of a vibrator as your assistant, not your substitute. Many couples use vibrators together.
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There is a "huge difference" between men and women in the ways that sex feels good.When a man has intercourse with a woman, and his penis goes into her body, that sensation is so passionate for most men, they cannot imagine that it isn't feeling the same way for her.It couldn't be further from the truth.The inside of the vagina is probably less sensitive than the outer parts for most women.Also, deep thrusting may not feel so nice on the receiving end. If the penis is too long,it feels like you're getting punched in the stomach.It makes you feel nauseous.
Mistake No. 4:
Most guys know generally what a clitoris is and where to find it.But whether they understand it is the point. The belief that women must be able to orgasm from vaginal penetration stubbornly persists.There are people who say things like, my wife can't climax from intercourse unless she has clitoral stimulation.For the majority of women, it's not going to happen that way.
Men also lack information about how to touch it and how sensitive it is. A touch that's bliss for one woman may feel like nothing special, or may even be painful for someone else. Some prefer indirect stimulation.How can you find out how she likes to be touched? Answer ask her.
Guys sometimes get disappointed if a woman doesn't get slippery enough for easy penetration. Don't worry about it.Many think that if a women is turned on, she has to be wet, not necessarily.Some women tend to get wetter than others, and how much natural lubrication a woman has can change from day to day. It varies by the phase of her menstrual cycle, and it's subject to influences like stress and medications.
Mistake No. 6:
A lot of guys think they should be silent during sex, but unless you speak up, your partner has to
guess what's doing it for you and what isn't.A woman who wants to please you will probably
appreciate some directions.Please say,this is how I like it, and you do this in a way i most prefer.
Raghu Natrajan
